Project Makom, an initiative of Jew in the City, helps former and questioning Charedi Jews find their place in Orthodoxy. While we believe that there are numerous valid paths within Orthodox Judaism, not all observant Jews are born into a community that fits them. There are some Modern Orthodox Jews who choose to move to the right, but Charedi Jews who want to transition to less insular observant communities often face hurdles that prevent them from doing so (whether cultural, educational, or simply feeling unwelcomed). Some of these people end up leaving religious life altogether. Project Makom strives to give these individuals another option.
We believe that every Jew should get the chance to find his or her Makom. As a new ba’alas teshuva, Project Makom founder, Allison Josephs struggled to find where she belonged. It was a pursuit to live a life imbued with meaning and a connection to Hashem that brought her to Torah observance, but once she arrived, she had no idea which community to join. She’d meet modern Orthodox Jews who would tell her to be “modern” because “charedim are crazy,” then she’d meet charedi Jews who’d tell her to become charedi because Modern Orthodox Jews are lazy. Then she’d meet Lubavitchers who would tell her Chabad was the way to go.
Feeling lost and confused, Allison thought maybe she would just trust no one, as every person she spoke to seemed to have an agenda. But then at the end of a summer of studying in Israel, she met a wise woman who did not try to persuade Allison to become like her. Instead she told her: “There were twelve shvatim, they each had their own way, go find yours.” Armed with the permission to trust in herself, Allison felt empowered to explore many communities and choose one where she felt most comfortable. Attending the seminary Midreshet Rachel (a division of Darche Noam) soon aftwards, where the hashkafa was to expose the new ba’al teshuva to a range of communities, teachers and rebbeim, Allison found her way and uses this approach in guiding Makom’s programming and philosophy.
Project Makom is committed to presenting a range of communities and teachers to its members who share these values (which can be found across the spectrum of Orthodoxy):
- commitment to halacha in order to build a sincere relationship with Hashem
- tolerance and respect of all people
- not afraid of tough questions, and knowing sometimes the question is better than the answer
- belief that faith is not provable, but that there are compelling reasons to choose faith
- ahavas Yisrael, but also not being afraid to speak out against problems
- belief that science, secular media, and higher education can have a place within Orthodoxy
In February 2013, Allison Josephs founder and director of Jew in the City, a social media organization whose mission is to break down stereotypes about religious Jews and offer a humorous, meaningful look into Orthodox Judaism had a speaking engagement in Monsey geared towards a non-observant crowd. After the talk, a couple approached her. They had been raised, as they described it “ultra-Chasidish,” but did not feel that they could live such a strict life any more. Unfortunately, their families had rejected them when they expressed their desire to lead a more moderate observant Jewish life. “We still want to be frum,” they told her, “we just don’t know who to follow.”
Allison was troubled by how lost they were and told them she wanted to help them. “You’ll come for Shabbos,” she said. “I’ll introduce you to our Rav.” But then someone interrupted them, and when she looked up, they were gone. She tried to find them after the talk, to no avail. Allison started reaching out to people at major Jewish organizations, asking if anyone wanted to help create a program to help people in this situation. Nobody was ready to do anything about it.
As the months passed, every so often Allison would remember that this couple was still out there and feel guilty, but it wasn’t until May of 2014 that something finally pushed her to act. She read an account online of an ex-Satmar woman who wanted to stay observant after she left her Satmar community, but every non-Chasidic school she checked out didn’t want her kid. Her new non-Chasidic neighbors never really welcomed her and her son had no one to play with on Shabbos until she started paying a neighbor to do so. After enough rejections, she got fed up and just left altogether. Today she is no longer observant.
The moment Allison read this, she knew that something had to be done even if she didn’t know what that thing was. And so the next day Allison posted an article on JewintheCity.com asking our readers to speak up if they were willing to help people in this situation. She heard from 200 people from around the world (including the couple who she had lost! And she did have them for Shabbos and introduced them to her rav!) Apparently many people had been wanting to help but didn’t know how to.
Two women, Mindy Schaper and Gavriella Lerner, volunteered to spearhead this effort, which was named Project Makom. A quick Project Makom Shabbaton was hosted in Airmont in July 2014, and the following year was spent recruiting, interviewing, and connecting with volunteers, educators, mental health professionals, and community leaders to coordinate services. A Shabbaton in June 2015 hosted in the Five Towns, launched the first year of full programming, and Project Makom continues to develop, expand services, grow, and improve.
Why the name?
We named this initiative “Makom” because this word has several meanings which fit our goals. “Makom” means “place” – as in “every Jew should be able to find his place in our community.” It means “space” as in “we will make space for you if you want to join us here.” And lastly, “Makom” is one of the names of God. We refer to God as “HaMakom” when we’re comforting a mourner. The Maharal says that “Makom” is connected to the word“mekayem,” something that sustains and provides existence. Many of the people making this transition need both comfort and sustenance as they find their way in a community which is unfamiliar to them.
Zeldy grew up in a very close and tight-knit chasidish community in Brooklyn. While there was a tremendous amount of warmth and chesed exemplified by her community, she yearned to find her spiritual individuality and gain a deeper emotional and intellectual understanding of G-d. With a background in sales and a passion for dance, Zeldy now teaches English at a large Yeshiva. She lives in North Jersey with her husband and three beautiful children.
Director of Volunteer Services
Sara Dorsky, LMSW is a social worker with experience in addiction, recovery, and trauma. A wife and mother of 2 children, she has worked extensively helping mothers recover from addiction and successfully raise their children, counseled girls looking to leave dysfunctional homes, and treated women in abusive relationships. Because of her background and experiences, Sara is passionate about helping others to grow, flourish ,and find a place in the Jewish world that is right for them.
Member Intake Coordinator
Ben Madsen is a second year doctoral student in Clinical Psychology at Rutgers University, but that’s hardly the most interesting thing he does. He grew up in a Reform/Conservative Jewish community in Boston, Massachusetts. After encountering his Jewish identity as a young adult at Tufts University, he decided to expand his Jewish education after finishing his college degree in Clinical Psychology at Tufts University in 2013. After two years in yeshiva, Ben met his wife, they got married, and they spent a year in Israel learning Torah in Yerushalayim. They returned to the states so Ben could pursue his dream of becoming a therapist. Now, in Grad School, Ben has many positions, including working in the Rutgers Clinic for Psychological Services and two different school settings in New Jersey, all while taking classes and being an active member of the Edison Chabura, run by R’ Billowitz. Beyond his professional interests, he used to play mandolin in a bluegrass band, he ran the Jerusalem marathon, and for some reason he insists on eating quinoa. He is excited to join the Project Makom team to connect with other Jews who strive to find their path.
Allison Josephs is the founder and director of Jew in the City (of which Project Makom is an initative of) whose mission is to break down stereotypes about religious Jews and offer a humorous, meaningful look into Orthodox Judaism. Allison has been involved in the field of Jewish Outreach for over fifteen years, working at Partners in Torah, Sinai Retreats, and NCSY, and is the Partner in Torah mentor to actress Mayim Bialik. She was named one of NJOP’s Top Ten Jewish Influencers in 2012 and was one of the Jewish Week’s 36 under 36 in 2013. Allison has been quoted or written about in numerous publications, including The Wall Street Journal, CNN, The Daily Beast, Huffington Post, and Yahoo News.
Allison has appeared on numerous television and radio networks including CBS, TLC, The Hallmark Channel, HuffPost Live, Associate Press TV, and NPR; her articles have appeared in numerous publications including the anthology Like Water on a Rock, The Washington Times, Kveller, and The Forward. She is a sought-after international lecturer whose corporate clients include Con-Edison and NYU Langone and hosts a weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network. She received her Bachelor in Arts from Columbia University in Philosophy and lives with her husband and four children minutes from the George Washington Bridge.
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